The Voice Of Fear

Why Listen To Me?


The first thing you should ask yourself before taking anyone's advice is “What makes this person qualified to give me advice?” This question can be answered one of two ways. Usually, the answer comes from a list of educational credentials a person might have showing their study on the subject, along with a list of professional credentials showing how they have taken this education to the public as a career path.

I have neither.

I graduated college after 11 years -- taking six years off in between to work and ski in Lake Tahoe -- and received a bachelor of arts degree in history. I don't have a masters or Ph.D. in any subject, but I did get certified in mounting skis and stringing tennis rackets. So I don't qualify in the first way you might use to decide if a person has credibility.

The second way you could decide a person's credibility would be by looking at how they live their life and understanding what they have accomplished and how they went about it.

Tony Robbins' advice has always stuck with me. He said “Find someone who has what you want and do what they did to get it.” This advice seems so simple and wise and it is what I use in order to determine someone's credibility.

Over the course of my life I have learned from a number of instructors. I ignored their credentials and only looked to see if they had achieved what I was after. Ironically, I found that the more credentials an instructor or expert had, the less they walk the walk in their own lives. They seemed to give great advice or instruction but they didn't apply it to themselves.

I remember a golf instructor of mine when I was a kid who had a terrific resume. He talked about tempo and remaining calm on the golf course, but I once watched him snap a putter in half after missing a short putt that would have given him the course record. I decided that all the credentials in the world don't mean a thing when you only talk the talk and don't walk the walk.

So I have written this book about facing fear and restoring the voice of your heart. This book is made up of my experiences with fear and my heart with no license taken. There is not a single word that is exaggerated for effect.

Over the course of my life I have applied the same approach to everything I have achieved, putting honor ahead of outcome. When you put honor ahead of outcome you put the voice of your heart ahead of the voice of your fear. By doing this I have created financial security for myself and others (www.theatobapproach.com) through a career that I love, a relationship with a woman that fulfills me (www.malesdontfloat.com), and oneness with my recreational sports and nature (www.zen-golf.com).

And yes, I found oneness with the game of golf. That alone should be enough to convince you to continue reading. I kid, but I hope you come along for the journey to the other side of fear.  

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